See Your Patterns.
Change Your Results.

1- What are the thoughts which are making you sick? What are the words that are creating your Reality? what are your usual emotions that you carry through out your day? You create with thoughts feelings emotions, words & actions.

• A. I can’t control my thoughts and my emotions, they are controlling me.
• B. I never pay attention to how I talk to myself, I am mostly negative, I see problems developing everywhere.
• C. I dwell on conflicts from the past
• D. I am thinking about great things for myself & then I feel not deserving them, I don’t believe that anything will work for me.
• E. I understand that my thoughts are very powerful so are my words but I don’t know how to change my old patterns into new habits which will help me maintain my focus on positive outcomes.
• F: i know how to take my power back as I am expanding my consciousness

2- Are you easily influenced by others and because of their opinions you give up on yourself, your plans, your dreams, your desires?

• A. Yes I am easily influenced by others as I am afraid-to be alone, to be left out.
• B. I am an empathic type so I don’t want to hurt others stating my truth or create unnecessary conflict, so I swallow & I adopt.
• C. I don’t know how to hold on my desires, I have weak willpower. I give up easily on myself and then I hold on regrets.
• D. I am not easily influenced, I have my boundaries and I am ok to be on my own if I am not in alignment with my old friends I simply don’t participate.I am strong but with closest friends or family I easily change my decisions, I can’t say no to them out of guilt & responsibility.
• E. I have strong priorities and I am very empathetic but I’ve learn how not to have others creating my decisions.
• F. I am not easily influenced, I have my boundaries and I am ok to be on my own if I am not in alignment with my old friends I simply don’t participate.

3- Are people projecting their triggers( emotional insecurities)on you, pulling you into their victim victimizer game of blame.? can you see what belongs to them & what is yours to not participate in the drama conflict that they are creating?

• A: I always say what people want to hear as I avoid conflict .
• B. I will be very apologetic trying to fix the situation which I absolutely didn’t create because I am a pleaser, I will swallow the unpleasant event, even when the individual almost vomited on me with their anger, and all is to avoid conflict.
• C. I will respond with pride and I will get involved in the drama, creating even bigger problem, then i will regret doing that and I will apologize for something that i didn’t even start. The blame was transformed on me but at this point i feel responsible.
• D . I can say my truth without yelling as I learned that mature people talk not yell, especially when people will flip on me, when I made a comment which made them angry fo no reason and I didn’t do anything out of wrong intention. I will hold calm but firm and will assure them that I didn’t do anything to them, for them to act inappropriate.
• E . I will react to it by leaving the awkward situation saying: I see that you need some time to reflect and cool down, then we can talk about it.
• F. I will tell them straight up, to not flip their past traumas on me, as I simply expressed my observations.

4- Are you suppressing/pushing your emotions in, never speaking up about the things that you don’t agree with? Do you know that communication is the best solution to resolve problems? Do you also know that when you suppress emotions you create diseases?

• A. I can't speak my truth as I was told to be silent and dont trust people.
• B. I avoid conflict at all cause I am a pleaser I want to be liked.
• C. I will not react on the spot, i will swallow this event and when i will go through few similar events, i will simply went with typical to me venting habit. I will cry, or yell or bring everything that I didn’t express before.
• D. I am suppressing my emotions a lot as I feel unappreciated , I am becoming a resentful empath.
• E. I am not suppressing my emotions as I need to understand first what happened and after thinking about the best possible solution i will address this issue again in peace.
• F. I am speaking with myself to resolve unclear situations? Writing in my journal as this helps me to release stress.

5- Are you grateful for little things in your life or you are always concentrating on things that you lack?

• A. I am always thinking about the things that I can't have.
• B. I am so busy throughout the day that I don’t have time for thinking about Gratitudes.
• C. I have nothing to be grateful for as my life is so empty, I envy happy people
• D. I am grateful but then I also think often the worse scenarios for my life.
• E. I am grateful for a lot of things but I am not always saying what i am greaful for .
• F. I am always grateful for everything, I focus on at least on 3 things that I am Grateful for every single day when I open my eyes.

6- Do you live life in high stress not having time to enjoy life?( I am changing this question with Do you often pity yourself and you manipulate unconsciously on the beginning)

• A. Yes my life is super fast, I need to keep myself busy to feel that I am not missing out.
• B. Yes I create a lot of unnecessary stress and drama and that effects people around me.
• C. I can handle stress easily but that effects my relaxation time, I can’t unplug from being busy.
• D. I create stress by overthinking things.
• E. I learned to stop the stress and anchor in peace and that helps me to shifts my stress instantly.

7- 1. Can you easily forgive and move on in life, in that very moment when someone is hurting you or are you resentful & hurt holding it against others, but truly against yourself, closing yourself up ? ( remove the second part of the question)

• A. I can’t forgive easily so I hold my hurts in, that exhausts me.
• B. I hold my hurts and I take them against other people who remind me of the once that hurt me.
• C. I cause a temper tantrum behaviour so others can notice what happened to me, that I got hurt and now I become the same oppressor towards this people. I can’t let go of proving my point.
• D. It takes time for me to release the hurts but eventually I reason and I release.
• E. I forgive easily completely, seeing what actually happened and why I felt hurt, I investigate on it, I release that hurt and I learn what I need to heal in me, I know that all around me is reflecting me.
• F: I remind myself to forgive daily.

8- Can you easily pin point what you don’t like in others? Did you know that these are your own reflections of what you need to heal in you?

• A. I can easily see what I don’t like in people, and what I do like. I didn’t know that these are my own reflections to work on.
• B. I always see what others should change in them but I don't see this characteristics in me.
• C. I am always projecting things on other people, I will always change them
• D. I am easily manipulated by people.
• E. I see our similarities and differences but I observe the journey to know exactly what will trigger me and what I need to heal.
• F. I observe what I am being triggered with and I work on myself as much as I can.

9 - Can you be honest with yourself to see your floss and habits that you need to change and heal in you, or you can only see what others should change in them?

• A. I can't see my own behavior as I always blame others
• B. I see a lot of things that others should work on not necessarily myself.
• C. I don't see my faults and shortcomings I think that I react this way as others are making me upset.
• D. Sometimes I am very honest with myself and sometimes I simply don’t know what I need to change in me.
• E. I see my behaviors, i monitore them when others are touching my soft spots and i am learning not to react on them
• F. I’m very aware of my flaws, as I’m honest with myself.

10- Are you doing a lot of extra miles for others not feeling appreciated? Do you know how to build healthy boundaries and say no?

• A. I am sacrificing myself for others as I don’t know how to say no.
• B. I feel responsible for everyone even if they don’t ask for help and I feel exhausted
• C. I am very balance and I created healthy boundaries so I know when to say no .
• D. I am always giving more that others expect and then I get upset with myself that they are taking advantage of me
• F. I am always doing extra miles for others and it’s not important for me to be appreciated by them, I like making people happy.

11. Are you a Dreamer?

• A. I hardly dream as I go through so many difficulties in life.
• B.I stopped dreaming, I think reality is what it is
• C. I dream about a lot of things but nothing comes true so I doubt that my dreams will ever come true.
• D. I dont know how to dream as I was told that life is what it is and dreams are not real.
• E. I dream a lot, small dreams, big dreams and I am excited about them and a lot of my dream came to fruition.
• F. I dream, I make plans and I take action towards my dreams and I feel this magical sensation when things are manifesting.

12. Are you often angry with yourself or others and what is ongoing anger creating in your life?

• A.I am often angry with others and this brings so much additional stress in my life
• B.I am angry with myself. That creates chaos.
• C. Both: myself & others. I started to recognize what happens when I do that. So I am more careful to feel angry.
• D. I know now how to avoid being angry as this brings destruction and I don’t like to be in this space.

13. Do you often complain, blame circumstances or people, make excuses when something goes wrong in your life or you take ownership of that?

• A. I go into panic mode and yes I always blame circumstances, sometimes people.
• B. I always make excuses for myself as it’s easier to deal with the consequences
• C. I don’t complain that often but I make a lot of excuses for myself, I am afraid to make a decision.
• D. I always not happy with something, often with a snappy turtle mood F: I can control my anger better and better.
• E. I always take ownership when something goes wrong in my life and I look for positive solutions

14. When you finally make a long wanted decision are you often changing that decision on the very last minute? Did you know that this is a self sabotaging pattern?

• A. I always change my decisions almost at the last moment as I am afraid of consequences. I want change but then I am not sure really if I want change. Easier is to complain or blame and make excuses.
• B. I will explain to myself all the worse scenarios of that decision that I made, as I think I am better off with what I already have as the fear of an unknown is paralyzing.
• C. I can't stick with my decisions as I don't trust myself.
• E. I can't stick with my decisions as I don't trust myself.
• D. I know that I am self-sabotaging but I guess I am too comfortable, the fear of the unknown is stronger than my desires.
• F: I make sure that I will not listen to the voices in my head to give up on my decision so I move forward. Fear has big eyes but I am stronger than that

15. Are you procrastinating in life because you are paralyzed to make wrong decision or you are lazy?

• A. I always see 2 sides of the story and that creates my indecisiveness.
• B. I never know what I want as my mind is so busy
• C. My procrastination is weighing me down and creates chaos in my life.
• D. I am missing out on life as I never know what I want, I always find reasons not to do things, that feels like laziness, lack of motivation
• E. I know that I am indecisive so I’ve learn to do things from the moment I will think about it. I created new creative habits.
• F: I learned to not listen to the voices in my head...I became my own cheerleader .